The Journey of a Recovering__________

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Most of all, I give all glory to the Most High God, the True and Living God, and His Son, Jesus Christ, and my Comforter and Teacher, Guide and Third Person of the Trinity, Holy Spirit.  I learned to recognize patterns and problems through the various disciplines and methods I practiced.  I did not have the power to change a single thing.  It is so frustrating to see patterns and see myself seemingly unable to make a difference.  Of course, I was never meant to do anything through my own strength.  I did not know that until decades after I began my journey of recover.


I want to graciously thank every teacher, healer, practitioner, therapist, deliverer, counselor, sponsor, inner healer and friend who asked questions and helped me down the road.  This journey has been a lifetime and it is not over yet!







What is the journey for?           

What is “recovering”?              

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You CAN experience peace and emotional wholeness!  There is HOPE!  You are not alone on the road.  


I invite you to come alongside me for a short while on this journey.  You may see yourself in some of the stories.  You might pick up a useful map to take you further on your own journey.  It is my intention-hope-desire that you will come away from our shared ‘journey’ with some insights not seen before.  You will also acquire a few keys to take with you from our time together which will unlock baggage compartments which have long haunted you.  Do you say, “I wish I could……” and seem powerless to make any lasting change?


On this journey towards inner peace and contentment, I will show you some of the various sources of my/our inner angst.  I will present what some people have found to be answers to a happier life.  And I ask you to stay for the whole trip.  It might get bumpy, but it will always be safe!


Some of My Story


I, like so many on this planet, arrived at my initial destination amidst a sea of YUCK!  I know, not a very scientific word.  It is an appropriate description of the muck and mire which we as human beings experience, though.

I was born to a couple who did not like each other very much.  By the time I was conceived, my mother had had four miscarriages and had a seven month old baby girl.  Wham, pregnant again!  Would she lose this one?  I was much longer and way more active, so my folks figured I was a boy (they didn’t do sonograms then).  Oh, the joy of an anticipated son.  Hope for a failing marriage?  I do not think so!  Some of my therapy has shown me she did NOT want to bring another child into a bad marriage.  I don’t know who cheated first.  I do know they were divorced by the time I was two and a half.


My mother, the oldest of five siblings, married my dad, the youngest of six.  If you have read books such as Kevin Lehman’s “The Birth Order”, you will recognize this to be a common scenario.   John Bradshaw, known for popularizing the term ‘dysfunctional family’ also has a book about the family structure.  His understanding, and I see the point, is that each child born into a family will instinctively assess the family dynamics and determine how they can best balance it - the more unhealthy the perceived imbalances, the more drastic the child’s attempt to correct it.  Some of the roles taken on are the Clown, the Black Sheep, and the Angel.  Of course, this is not a conscious process!  It seems to be well established before we are even talking!


Enough about me!  What about you?  What might you be recovering from?  In what ways have you tried to find momentary peace – by clouding your mind, distracting your senses, keeping yourself busy?  Over working? Over eating? Over spending? Drugs? Alcohol?  Uncontrollable, risky, emotionless sex? Comfort eating?  Fixing other people?  Religious activities?


So, what is “recovering”?


Recover, reclaim, retrieveto regain, literally or figuratively, something or someone.  To recover: to obtain again what one has lost possession of: to recover a stolen jewel.  To reclaim: to bring back from error or wrongdoing, or from a rude or undeveloped state: to reclaim desert land by irrigation. To retrieveto bring back or restore, especially something to its former, prosperous state: to retrieve one's fortune. Heal; Mend; Recuperate; Rally.



In the well known 12-Step Anonymous programs (i.e. Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics A, Al-Anon, Al-a-teen, Codependent A, Overeaters A, Rageoholic, Shopoholic, Adult Children of Alcoholics and other dysfunctional families) the term is used to keep in the forefront of one’s mind the ongoing, never-ending definition of oneself.  In those programs, one is in the constant state of recovering.  Never recovered! 


I am using the term more as a common thread.  All human beings existing on this terrestrial ball have experienced disappointment, hurts, traumas, and worse!  How we learn to handle these experiences steers where our journey has taken us, how long we stay at a stop-over in the trip, whether we go back to camp out at familiar grounds.  All these go into our uniquely personal journey.


So, hop on board and let’s get going!  There is the proverbial ‘light at the end of the tunnel’ – and it is not an oncoming train!




  1. The Birth Order, Kevin Leman, copyright 1985, 1998, 2009.  Published by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group
  2. On the Family, John Bradshaw, copyright 1988;  Published by Health Communications, Inc.
  3. recovering. Unabridged. Random House, Inc.
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